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Welcome to The Get Your Energy Back Podcast, where we dive deep into topics that can help you boost your energy levels and live a more vibrant life. I’m your host, Shelby Hansen. As a life coach, invisible illness warrior, and kidney transplant recipient, I’ve navigated the waters of chronic fatigue for nearly a decade and can help you feel more energized and alive than ever before!This show explores how different nervous system states can impact your life and how you can harness this knowledge to improve your well-being.Do you feel like you're constantly stuck in fight or flight mode, overwhelmed by stress and anxiety? Are you feeling constantly drained and exhausted, struggling to get through the day? Or maybe you find yourself feeling stuck, lacking motivation and struggling to take action towards your goals. This podcast is here to help you understand the different nervous system states and how they affect you on a daily basis.Join me as I discuss strategies to regulate your nervous system, manage stress and anxiety, and cultivate a sense of calm and ease in your life. Whether you're looking to overcome limiting beliefs, improve your relationships, gain a better understanding of the factors that affect your energy levels, or simply find more joy and fulfillment in your life, The Get Your Energy Back Podcast is the perfect place to start. So sit back, relax, and join me on this journey toward a more energized, balanced, and fulfilling life.

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152. How to Get Out of a Shame Spiral and Feel Like Yourself Again

July 08, 2025 • Shelby Hansen

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Ever have one of those days where you feel like everything you do is wrong and you just want to disappear? That’s not a failure—it’s a shame spiral.

In this powerful episode, I share a deeply personal story of coaching in front of a group and instantly spiraling into shame. I walk you through how shame shows up in your nervous system, what it does to your thoughts and body, and—most importantly—how to move through it with compassion, safety, and clarity.

You’ll learn:

The real difference between shame and guilt
Why shame feels so true in the moment (but isn’t)
Simple nervous system tools to exit the spiral
How to use ladder thoughts like and that’s okay to disarm self-criticism
Why making a PB&J can actually be a sacred act of healing

This episode is for anyone who feels like they’re failing, falling behind, or just can’t get it together right now. Nothing has gone wrong. You’re not broken. You’re just in a shame moment—and there’s a way through.

Ready to heal your relationship with yourself? Book your free consult at https://calendly.com/shelbykhansen/45min